Comments on: Do you trust yourself?

By: Grace

Grace — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 14:41:53 +0000

Alyssa – My sympathies on the passing of your mother. There’s a space in your life now that she once filled. And as you notice, the impact of that space will show you things that you hadn’t known about yourself.

Your heart knows what’s true for you. Tuning your ear to that small, quiet voice is a process of discovery that – if you allow yourself to relax and be curious – can be a truly wonderful journey.

I wish you joy in the journey, even as you experience the grief of your mother’s passing.

By: Alyssa

Alyssa — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 01:59:10 +0000

I’ve been thinking about this quite a bit recently. I lost my Mother about a month ago to cancer. Since then, I’ve been questioning my own decisions.. didn’t realize how validating she was until she was gone. Now I have to make the choice to validate myself. All part of the hard work of dealing with the loss if a parent I suppose.

By: Grace

Grace — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 15:16:46 +0000

Seth – You are so right: the friend who can listen deeply enough and elicit what’s true for us, instead of offering an opinion or advice – that is absolutely invaluable, as you say.

And oh, yeah, such a process! Which, as a reader of your blogs, I would definitely say you’re embracing wholeheartedly.

By: Seth Simonds

Seth Simonds — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 05:09:45 +0000

I have a very dear friend who, years ago, made a habit of calling me during times of emotional distress caused by yet another of her romantic escapades. She’d say “Seth, you know me better than I do. What am I going to do next and why should I try not to do what I always do?”

The best friends are the ones who help us find our voice when it seems we’ve lost our way. Ones who give advice are nice…ones who help us answer questions with what we know ourselves to be the best answer? Invaluable!

I am learning to trust myself more. Oh, it is such a process!

By: Grace

Grace — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 22:12:50 +0000

Victoria – Thank you. And good on you for being there too, as I know you are from reading some of your recent blog entries. (Augh. I really want to get CommentLuv working, but it just keeps fighting me!)

Jenni – Excellent point. It’s a continuum, and an evolution, for sure! Always being and always becoming. Thanks!

By: Jenni Green

Jenni Green — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 17:34:45 +0000

Great question. And great noticing.

For me, it’s all about progress in the right direction. I trust myself today more than I did a year ago… and not as much as I believe I will next year.

By: Victoria Brouhard

Victoria Brouhard — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 06:09:39 +0000

I’m feeling the heat with this one, Grace!

“How often have I turned away from my own knowing, whether over an issue small or large, and lived instead by someone else’s opinion, someone else’s ideas of what was right for me?”

That is so right on with what I deal with, too. Knowing the answer yet needing that validation.

And, I’m right there with you in saying it’s time honor my own knowing.

Beautifully said.