This is a guest post by Christine Claire Reed.
Grace asks amazing, thoughtful questions in her private Facebook group, Platypus Practices, and her question about more and less was one of her more powerful ones, as I am still – a month and a half later – finding new layers to my answer.
She asked what we wanted more of in our business and what we were willing to do less of to make room.
My “less” answer came to me immediately.
I was raised in a house where discussions were always debates and you better have your sources ready for citing and you better be prepared to prove yourself.
It has taken me until recently to realize that I have continued to function from this set of rules, and I function from them in all of my relationships, not just in my work.
I am always ready with the next bit of information or the book that would back me up. (I am … most of the time … not an asshat about this and find that my sourcing is typically greatly appreciated.)
This is a sad way to live for many reasons, not the least of which is the energy expenditure. No wonder I am so tired by early evening!
So when Grace asked this question, “less convincing” popped into my head in less than a second.
I have been working with the Bhagavad Gita now for just over a year, and I was trying, in particular, to let go of the fruit of other people’s results.
My work is my work. I give it to them and they do what they will and what happens happens.
That’s hard for a control freak! I want you to have a certain experience and I want you to be happy, damn it!
Grace’s question, though, showed me that I wasn’t JUST attached to the fruit of outcome via my process. I was attached to convincing people that my process was for them.
This is, of course, partly my job but also not my job. I supply the information and the roadmap, and that’s all I can do. The rest is up to the recipient. Period.,
Convincing less means that I have more room for creation – creating content and not argument, creating art and not proof.
But there’s more …
Just within the last couple of days, I noticed yet another deeper layer of this convincing.
I am constantly working to convince myself!
I work on convincing myself that I am doing the right thing, that the next step makes sense, that this or that is worth my time, that my work in this world is my work in this world, that the fears are not worth listening to, and on and on.
Rather than just acting, I think about and analyze my actions.
Which brings me right back to the Bhagavad Gita, in which Krishna teaches Arjuna that all he can do in this life is fulfill his dharma, live his life’s purpose, take the next step and then the next one, and trust that if you are working from this place of truth that nothing else about it is really any of your business.
Just act. Then move on.
Create more. Convince less. I think Krishna would approve of the simplicity of that.
Christine is the creator of Reed Dance Sadhana™, breath-based movement experiments for the soul and dance as spiritual practice. She creates online workshops and virtual movement experiment experiences via various media. She is currently creating an international choreography project, working with dancers/non-dancers from all over the world. She owns/operates Girl on Fire Movement Studio in Erie, Pennsylvania.
Christine has had a variety of trainings from Kripalu Yoga Center in the Berkshires, including Somatic Healing, Yoga Dance teacher training, Yoga Dance for Special Populations teacher training, Movement for Trauma with world-renowned psychiatrist Bessel von der Kolk, restorative dance, and the art of Butoh with internationally acclaimed Butoh/movement artist Maureen Fleming. She has also started her biomechanical alignment training with Katy Bowman, MS. She has studied dance since she could walk and yoga for over 18 years, including an almost exclusive focus on Kundalini yoga for the past 13 years.
You can read more from Christine at her blog, www.girlonfiredance.com.
I’ve had the great pleasure of working with Christine as her student. If you are at all interested in dance as a form of personal expression, as a way to tell your story to yourself, as a way to open yourself to who you are and to what your life might be - or just as a way to play and have more fun! – then I urge you to join her private (and free) Facebook group, Inferno of Awesome, and see what her work is all about. (You’ll need to “friend” her at www.facebook.com/christineclairereed and then ask her to join the group.)
I’ve also had the great honour of working with her as my client.
It was a particular honour – and a huge gift – when she wrote a blog post about her experience working with me. It’s a beautiful expression of what is emerging in my work now, and I so appreciate this reflection from someone so articulate and so willing to share a vulnerable experience. Thank you, Christine!