It’s easy to say about small things. “I want another cup of coffee.” “I want a cookie.” Even “I want a hug!”
The bigger things … not so easy.
Stating, clearly and with details, what we really want for our work, ourselves, our lives – that starts to feel scary.
Because when we claim what we want, expectations and anxiety tend to march in and set up shop.
Expectations about whether we’ll get what we want. Anxiety about whether we’re capable of doing the necessary work, or about whether forces outside our control will cooperate with us.
Anxiety about whether we even deserve to have what we want.
But here’s the thing: until we claim what we want, standing up for it, identifying the meaningful details, we can’t be effective in working towards it.
And until we claim what we want and understand those details, we can’t prepare – we can’t make ourselves ready to actually have what we want.
For instance, I used to pack up the boxes of materials for the intensive programs (including a few fun things!) for my clients individually, just before shipping. But that led to a lot of last-minute scrambling. Even more importantly, I realized that I was giving myself (and the universe) a subtle but important message that I wasn’t 100% serious about doing the intensives that these boxes are part of. After all, if I wasn’t preparing effectively or efficiently to be ready when clients scheduled… well, yeah.
Now I pack boxes when I order new shipments of the supplies that go into the boxes. Except for the things that are individually personalized, the boxes are all set and ready to go. And that’s a big part of being clear about how committed I am to the value of these programs for my clients, and how much I want to fill my calendar.
It may seem small, but it’s a big shift towards truly claiming what I want.
What’s your big shift? What “I want!” are you holding back from claiming for yourself?